"But I'm not the one who needs help!"
~A common phrase spoken by newcomers. Please read this questionnaire to see if Families Anonymous can make a difference in your life.For Concerned Relatives and Friends:
Ask yourself the following questions, and answer them as honestly as you can. Fill in each blank with the name of the person who is causing you concern.
1. Do you lie awake worrying about ____________________?
2. Do you feel frustrated in your attempts to control ___________________?
3. Do you disapprove of _________________’s lifestyle?
4. Do you argue with __________________ about his or her friends?
5. Do you find it increasingly difficult to communicate with ____________________?
6. Does ___________________’s behavior have you “climbing the walls?"
7. Do you often ask, “Where have I failed?”
8. Do you feel it is necessary to protect ______________ because he or she is unusually sensitive?
9. Are you trying to compensate for some family misfortune, such as divorce, death or illness?
10. Are you embarrassed about discussing your situation with a relative or friend?
11. Do you find yourself lying or covering up for ____________________?
12. Do you feel resentful or hostile toward ___________________?
13. Do you find it increasingly difficult to trust ___________________?
14. Do you worry about __________________’s behavior affecting other members of the family?
15. Do you blame others for _________________’s problems?
16. Do you blame yourself?
17. Are ___________________’s problems starting to undermine your marriage?
18. Do you find yourself playing detective, fearful of what you may find?
19. Do you go from place to place seeking help for ____________________?
20. Is concern for ___________________ giving you headaches, stomachaches, or heartache?
Three YES answers: This is an early-warning sign.
Four YES answers: Chances are, you could use some help.
Five or more YES answers: You are definitely in need of help.This questionnaire is copied directly from the Families Anonymous handout: "Are You at Your Wit's End?"
